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Thursday, June 11, 2009

Anonymous??

well, kenny, it's not about you. So, don't worry, hahaha. This post actually refers to someone which is totally anonymous to me when i was surfing around, blog by blog till i reach the c14. In 1 of the post, or perhaps currently, the 2nd last post. the comments posted by this particular person seems to be rather redundant. If she/he get to read this post in my blog, pls read it attentively.

1st of all, that blog is owned by 14 owners, so what you care if one of them decides to write something personal about themselves? For example, in the 3in1shampoo blog owned by kenny,kl, and fm, when fm went to france, 1 of them decided to express their feelings there. To the very least, it's useful in a sense that fm would visit that blog and get to read the feelings posted by the other 2 members. So, it applies perfectly here that when 1 of the owner write something personal, to the very least, the other 13 gets to view it and care for each other more.

But definitely there's 1 thing i'll disagree totally with every single 1 of them. Backstabbing and 2 face behaviour is not something which is everyday in life. I've never done that before as i remember (maybe i did it when i was young, but i don't remember it), and this certainly proves to you it's not something which is everyday in life. I treat everyone in my live equally except for some which I like to tease, haha but those who I tease are often those who are closer to me somehow but of cuz in a playing mood. Even towards enemy, i've never 2 face or backstab that guy before because i've never found 1, those guys are more to rivals which normally ends up as a friend, like that guy who got pissed off with me after i posted the IIU post, haha. I feel that he's a friend though, just that the start wasn't well, thanks to myself, haha. 2 face and backstab is certainly not and wasn't an option in my life before including most of my friends, be firm with your stand and certainly it can be avoided. I've heard about my friend before being a backstabber and 2 face from my other friends and many have disliked him and kinda outcast him from our group but i still remain as his friend because i have a simple reason for this relationship to go on. As long i don't hear the backstabbing myself, he will and always be my friend. Ppl might think this reason is stupid, but to me, it's good enough, no matter how much 1 person can bad mouth about you, as long as your friends and you yourself know it's not true, it's certainly good enough.

the anonymous's 3rd comment was "it's better we talk behind you. at least we din talk in front of you". That's what i would certainly call a coward. It's beyond humiliation talking bad about someone behind a person. For everyone, i believe everyone would think "if got any problem, talk in front of me la, why must you talk behind me" and we have done this many times. Among my friends and myself, we've discussed among ourselves the bad qualities of ourselves and yes, he accepts it and he learn to change or at least, suppresses it. For that, it's certainly better to talk in front rather than behind. Even if it's for me, i would say it's better for you to say things in front of me rather than behind. But of cuz, when we were having a discussion about it, definitely the choice of words are important and the starting is also tough, but as you go on with the flow, it will be a good process. that anonymous 4th comment was "naive i see". It makes me laugh as i was thinking who's the naive one here. Making irritating comments yet dare not reveal his/her own name. Basically i assume all the comments belong to his/her as the owners all seems to have their own name in that blog.

some would be wondering why would i write about this post when it doesn't concern me at all? i shall link it to you how it does concern me. 1st and foremost, some or a few of the c14 are my friends. So, since they are my friend, it certainly matters to me because of a simple question. If you see your friend is in trouble, will you help him or her? As a friend, certainly everyone would say yes and it certainly reach my concern. For an example, if i see Kenny's leg got stuck in the a drain, certainly i'll help him pull his leg out or figure out some ways to get his leg out (worst to worst, amputate his leg, hahahahaha). The only situation that i won't help kenny is when he get gangbanged by 5 heroes in Dota, unless all our allies are nearby, lol. If i help him, I'll die, so better let him die alone and respawn himself, hahaha. At least, they level up less and wont get extra money rite if i didn't die, lol. That's all, bye!

16 comments:

Jamie said...

okay..i know what u're talking about. i read about it too...

Chen Zhun said...

i see

✖ C l i Q u e 1 4 ✖ said...

hei. you might not know me as i am someone insignificant to you, but just to let you know i am one of the members of c14. i really, really do appreciate your concern and insight in2 our messy problems and yes, i do agree with you in a few matters.

yes, both writer and commentators are naive and cowardly. if not, why make their identities a mystery, aye?

secondly, most of us were as shocked as you when we read the blog entry. i admit we do gossip (a staple activity of us girls) but to backstab? if my memory serve me correctly, and if what my circle of friends say is true, we do not backstab.

thirdly, if you refer to may khei's most recent post, we do have a main suspect. and if we are true, the suspect herself gossips and backstabbed a close friend of hers before. and now she is ranting about the crime she herself commits (regularly)?

this recent problem made us realise that we are not that close to each other after all.

- s u e -

Chen Zhun said...

you're welcome. I know you (if i'm not mistaken) but didn't talk to you before only.
i wasn't shocked, just voicing out my opinion.
anyway, even if backstabbing happens, life goes on, it's up to the victim to give a 2nd chance or break that relationship off.
if that suspect is part of your group (looks like it is), perhaps i would advice a discussion with that suspect? with calm emotion of cuz. 2nd chance if she's been a long long time friend.
it's up to you guys to decide it. good luck!

Chen Zhun said...

oh ya, was shocked that you actually read my blog, haha.

sue said...

ya i do. i like to blog-surf. but how many second chances do one get in life?

anyway, hopefully we'll solve the matter soon.

Fern said...

i thhink that you find gossiping and backstabbing somewhat 'alien' to you because you are a guy.
If you were a girl, you would be pulled into the vortex/black hole of gossip too because it happens everyday, everytime, everywhere. No matter how pure you try to stay, its pretty hard to not involve yourself in gossip. I don't know, maybe we're all just too weak and are cowards. But that's girl world. You're either in or out.(i'm refering to gossip here)If you watch any regular american high school show, you'll get it. (of course we're not THAT bad)
As for the main suspect, who is still a suspect, I feel sorry for her that she feels that way. But, like sue said, its hypocritical of her to complain of something that she does herself.

Lesser known member,
Fern Yi

Chen Zhun said...

sushi : only 1 of cuz, if there are more, it would be called 3rd, 4th and so on.

fern yi : gossip.. alien cuz i'm not interested in it, nothing more, nothing less (i'm more to listener type, so i hardly gossip).

looks like 2 of the c14 is here.... who's next?
btw, it's a bad idea of letting ppl know i blog... don't really want ppl to know, thx.

sue said...

ok ok. i will send the message that you want to remain....below the radar. lol.

Chen Zhun said...

taking out the battery from the radar is better, lol

sue said...

sushi is sue btw

Chen Zhun said...

sue ann to be exact? (if not mistaken)

Anonymous said...

lol..damn you cz..haha

Chen Zhun said...

haha, biasa kena damn by you d, no feeling at all d, lol

Fern said...

v mostly found out about your blog bcoz there's a link frm may khei's

Chen Zhun said...

yea... either her's or jamie's...

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